Have you broken up with the love of your life only to find that they are already dating someone new? Its heartbreaking, I know, I've been there. But if its happened really quickly its probably a rebound relationship.
A rebound relationship is something people get into to avoid having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. Its a way of moving on and a way to deal with a break up.
And thats the key! - your ex is dating someone new to deal with the fact that they are missing you.
And if what you had was a relationship based on real love then there is a good chance that you will be able to put this break up behind you and get the partnership back. It doesn't matter what went on to cause the break up or even that your ex is dating someone new, if you have patience and know what sort of behaviors to avoid then you have a real chance at saving this relationship.
So your ex is dating someone new? That sucks, but rebound relationships are exactly that - they are formed when someone is trying to get over someone else.
If you look at the person that your ex is with you will hopefully see that they are different to you in some way - this is a good sign, this means that they are still thinking about you. You are still on their mind and thats why they have chosen their new rebound partner.
Maybe you are a quiet stay at home type and your ex has hooked up with a crazy party animal. Or perhaps you love to watch the football and your ex is now hanging out with an art gallery nerd.
If your ex is with someone that is completely different to you then you know their attention is still focused on you and thats a good sign. Its a good opportunity for you to use this time apart to improve yourself and become more of the partner that your ex desires. You must have been pretty close to have fallen in love in the first place!
So have the patience to let the rebound relationship run its course. As your ex spends time with someone new they will begin to recall what they miss about you and see the flaws in their new partner. With time you will become more and more attractive again. Time will work in your favour.
Thats the reason why it is not a good idea to rush back to your ex and try to get them to split up with their new partner and get straight back together with you. This would not be a good way to go about trying to rekindle your lost love.
Wait until your ex is ready to come back to you and welcome them back graciously and without bitchiness or jealousy. Be the new and improved you and you and your ex could enjoy a new more wonderful relationship.
I have listed below some specific DO NOT tips, these are really important!
· DO NOT try to convince your ex that you are the love of their life. Let them discover this on their own.
· DO NOT apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you're sorry. Once. But move on. Your ex knows the real reasons why they love you.
· DO NOT make promises to change. You are who you are and that's who they fell in love with. Making small improvements is one things but trying to change who you are just won't work.
· DO NOT try to explain that is was not your fault. Now is not the time for blame, if the break up was not your fault your ex will come to see this with time and you will not have wasted a whole lot of energy trying to make explanations in vain at this tricky time.
· And finally DO NOT and I mean NEVER EVER beg your ex to take you back.
If you have split up with your perfect partner and they have started a rebound relationship and are dating someone new, you don't have to despair completely. There could still be a chance for you. It does happen and relationships based on true love have the best chance of all for overcoming break ups and getting back together.
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